Spring is a Time of Transition

Spring is a time of new beginnings.

The trees and flowers begin to show signs of life again. Buds form where there was once only emptiness. Birds return, filling the quiet air with movement and sound after a long winter.

Everything around us is shifting, growing, emerging.

But what if you’re not?

What if, instead of feeling renewed, you feel stuck in the past?

What if moving forward feels less like a fresh start… and more like climbing a mountain or running a marathon with no finish line in sight?

If you are going through a life transition right now – whether it’s a career change, divorce, an empty nest, or a full reinvention – it can feel like your life is moving in slow motion while everyone around you seems to be moving full speed ahead.

And that disconnect can feel incredibly isolating.

The Hidden Truth About Transitions

We often associate spring with instant transformation…quick blooms, visible growth, effortless beauty.

But nature doesn’t actually work that way.

Before anything blooms, there is a long, quiet period of unseen work happening beneath the surface. Roots deepen. Energy rebuilds. Systems reset.

Growth begins long before it becomes visible.

The same is true for you.

If you feel stuck, it doesn’t mean you’re not moving forward. It may mean you are doing the deep, necessary work of healing, processing, and rebuilding.

This Is Temporary

During a time of transition, it’s important to remember this simple but powerful truth:

This is temporary.

Even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
Even if the days feel long and uncertain.

You will find your way again.
You will find your confidence again.
You will find your mojo again.

Transitions are not where your story ends…they are where your next chapter begins.

Why It Feels So Heavy

Life transitions don’t just change your circumstances…they challenge your identity.

Who am I now?
What do I want?
Where do I go from here?

It’s natural to look around and compare yourself to others, especially in a world where social media constantly shows curated snapshots of seemingly perfect lives.

But what you see online is not the full story.

It’s a highlight reel. A carefully chosen version of reality.

Everyone has down times.
Everyone experiences family struggles at some point.
Everyone wrestles with self-doubt.

You are not alone in how you feel…you’re just seeing a filtered version of everyone else.

Protect Your Energy

If you’re in a vulnerable season, it’s important to be intentional about what you allow into your space.

Limit the urge to compare.
Limit your exposure to social media if it leaves you feeling “less than.”

Instead, engage in activities that genuinely uplift you – things that bring even a small sense of peace, joy, or clarity.

Because healing doesn’t happen in comparison. It happens in connection to yourself and to what feels true for you.

What You Can Do Right Now

When everything feels uncertain, come back to what you can control.

Know who your true friends are.
They are the ones who listen without judgment. The ones who support you, sit with you, and lift you up when you need it most.

Don’t look to others for validation.
The only person you owe an explanation to is yourself.

Reconnect with yourself.
Sometimes the most powerful reset is the simplest one…a walk in nature. Fresh air, sunshine, and movement can shift your mood more than you expect, helping your body release those feel-good hormones and clear your mind.

Don’t isolate yourself.
When you’re struggling, it can feel easier to pull away – but we are wired for connection.

Reach out.
Call a trusted friend.
Meet for coffee. Sit and talk. Let yourself be seen.

And while it may be tempting to numb the discomfort, remember…numbing isn’t healing.
Alcohol won’t move you forward. Connection will.

You Are Not Behind

If you take nothing else from this, hold onto this truth:

You are not behind.
You are in process.

Even when it feels slow.
Even when it feels messy.
Even when it feels like nothing is happening.

Especially then.

Because just like spring, your life is not about instant blooming, it’s about gradual becoming.

A New Kind of Beginning

Spring reminds us that beginnings don’t always look bright and energized.

Sometimes they look uncertain.
Sometimes they feel heavy.
Sometimes they require letting go before anything new can take root.

If you are in a season of transition right now, give yourself permission to move at your own pace.

Trust that something is shifting…even if you can’t see it yet.

Because just like the trees and flowers around you…

Your growth is already underway.

Ready for Support?

If you’re navigating a transition and feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure of what’s next…you don’t have to do it alone.

I offer small, supportive group coaching programs for women who are:

• Going through or recently navigating divorce
• Ready to rediscover themselves and create a more fulfilling, aligned life

These groups are designed to give you a safe space to be heard, guided support to help you move forward, and a community of women who truly understand what you’re going through.

Space is limited to keep the groups personal and impactful.

If this resonates with you, now is the time to take that first step forward.

👉 Reach out to learn more or reserve your spot.

Because sometimes the most powerful transitions begin the moment you decide you’re ready for something more.

 Divorce Recovery: Setting Healthy Boundaries

Going through a divorce requires you to make countless decisions – legal, financial, logistical, and emotional. In the middle of all of that, one of the most important (and often overlooked) tasks is setting healthy boundaries.

Without clear boundaries, it’s easy to take on too much.

Too much responsibility.
Too much guilt.
Too much blame.
Too much shame.
Too much work.
Too much loyalty.

Divorce is already heavy. You do not need to carry what isn’t yours.

Why Boundaries Matter More Than Ever During Divorce

Boundaries are not walls meant to shut people out. They are guidelines that protect your energy, your values, and your evolving identity.

Your identity is shaped by:

• The roles you play
• Your beliefs and values
• The accumulation of your life experiences

During divorce, many of those roles shift…sometimes overnight. You may no longer be someone’s spouse. Your parenting schedule may change. Your social circles may shift. Family dynamics may feel different. These transitions can lead to confusion and even a sense of loss.

You may find yourself asking:

• Who am I now?
• What is my role in others’ lives?
• Where do I belong?

This is why reconnecting with your core values is essential.

Reconnecting With What Truly Matters

Your values are the internal compass that guide your decisions. They are shaped by:

• Early life experiences
• Family and culture
• Social messages
• Life transitions and trauma

Many women move through marriage prioritizing everyone else’s needs. In the process, they may set aside their own values or never fully define them in the first place.

Have you ever truly asked yourself: What is really important to me?

Taking out a sheet of paper and journaling your values can be transformative. Write freely. Don’t edit yourself. Notice what rises to the surface.

You may rediscover values that were pushed aside. You may uncover new ones emerging from this season of growth. This awareness becomes the foundation for setting meaningful, self-honoring boundaries.

Practicing Self-Compassion

Boundaries are rooted in self-respect, but they are sustained by self-compassion.

Self-compassion means treating yourself the way you would treat a close friend. It means recognizing that you are navigating a profound life transition and allowing yourself grace.

It also means making decisions aligned with your values.

It means saying “no” when you mean “no.”

No explanation required.
No apology necessary.

What Healthy Boundaries Look Like During Divorce

Boundaries during divorce create separation between who you were in your marriage and who you are becoming. They help contain chaos and create structure during upheaval.

Here are some practical ways boundaries can show up:

1. Protect Your Energy

Say “no” when you do not have the bandwidth to attend an event, social outing, or work meeting.

Prioritize what truly needs your attention. And just as importantly, prioritize rest and self-care. Protecting your energy is not selfish – it is necessary.

Release the guilt. You are allowed to conserve your strength.

2. Limit Contact When Necessary

You have the right to say:

• “I cannot talk about this right now.”
• “I will get back to you.”
• “I will only discuss this in the presence of my mediator or attorney.”

You do not owe anyone detailed explanations about your divorce. People can be curious, sometimes overly so. And… not everyone has your best interests at heart.

Protecting your privacy is a boundary.

3. Honor Who You Are Now

You may need to scale back involvement in certain activities or groups. That is okay.

Your time is valuable. You are adjusting to a new normal. You are recalibrating. You may even discover new interests and passions emerging.

Give yourself permission to step away from what no longer fits and explore what does.

 

When You’ve Always Been the “Do-It-All” Woman

If you have been the do-it-all wife, mother, career woman, volunteer, and dutiful daughter-in-law, setting boundaries may feel uncomfortable – maybe even wrong.

But here’s the truth:

The very women who have done the most often need boundaries the most.

Look at every role you play in family, work, friendships, and community. Consider what healthy, clear, firm boundaries would look like in each one.

Boundaries:

• Contain chaos
• Create structure
• Reduce resentment
• Protect your peace
• Declare your self-worth

They are not rejection. They are clarity.

Boundaries Are a Declaration of Self-Worth

My energy matters.
My values matter.
My well-being matters.

You are separating your past identity from your emerging one. You are choosing to build a life aligned with your beliefs and values.

Divorce may have disrupted your roles, but it does not diminish your worth.

This is your opportunity to redefine, realign, and rebuild with clarity, courage, and healthy boundaries guiding the way.

And let me remind you of something important:

• You are worthy of a life that reflects what you truly value.
• You are worthy of relationships built on respect.
• You are worthy of being surrounded by people who genuinely want to see you succeed.
• You are worthy of a life with purpose…for you

And…as a bonus, I have attached a Divorce Recovery Boundaries Worksheet (a tool in my Divorce Recovery Workshop) to help guide you in setting (or reaffirming) healthy boundaries in your life.

Week 2 Divorce Recovery_Setting Boundaries Worksheet

Create the Life You Want Through Self-Care And Intention

How Do You Create the Life You Truly Want?

How do you get the life you imagined?
How do you get the job you want?
How do you become healthy?
How do you become the best parent to your children, the best partner, the best friend, or the best version of yourself?

Many people ask these questions, yet few know where to begin.

Where Most People Look for Fulfillment (and Why It Doesn’t Work)

We often believe the answers lie outside of us.

Does fulfillment come from working longer hours and pushing harder at work?
From trying to be your child’s friend instead of their parent?
From building hundreds, or thousands, of connections on social media?
From attending every event, saying yes to every request, and giving endlessly to others?

While these efforts may look like success on the outside, they often lead to burnout, resentment, and emotional exhaustion.

The Truth About Living a Fulfilling Life: It Starts With You

The reality is simple but powerful:

It begins with you.

When you are emotionally, physically, or relationally depleted, you cannot fully show up for anyone else. You may be present in body, but not in spirit.

True fulfillment begins when you prioritize your own well-being and make yourself a priority—without guilt.

Why Self-Care Is the Foundation of Personal Growth

Living a life filled with joy, clarity, and intention requires getting intentional about your well-being.

If you constantly feel stressed, overwhelmed, or scatterbrained, it’s a sign that something needs to change. Slowing down isn’t a luxury – it’s a necessity.

How to Slow Down and Reconnect With Yourself

Start with a simple grounding exercise:

Sit in a quiet space.
Place your feet flat on the floor.
Take slow, deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth.

Try this for one minute. Counting to five on each inhale and exhale can help keep your mind focused.

Then gently ask yourself:

• How is my body feeling right now?
• Where am I holding tension?
• When does this tension usually show up?
• Is my body trying to tell me something?
• When do I feel most relaxed in my body and mind?

Your body often knows what your mind is too busy to hear.

Listening to Your Body: What Do You Really Need?

Take this reflection one step further by asking:

• Is my body giving me what I need?
• If not, what small changes can I make?
• Do I need more sleep?
• More time outdoors or in nature?
• More movement or exercise?
• Healthier, more nourishing food?

Awareness is the first step toward lasting change.

Three Self-Reflection Questions to Bring More Joy Into Your Life

To deepen your awareness, reflect on these three questions:

1. When was the last time I truly felt at peace with myself?
2. When was the last time I had fun just for the sake of having fun?
3. What is one small change I could make today to bring more joy into my life?

Small, intentional shifts often create the biggest transformations.

Aligning Mind and Body to Live Your Best Life

So ask yourself:

What is one step you can take today to bring your mind and body back into alignment?

Your life is yours to live. When you choose to care for yourself first, everything else – your relationships, your career, your health…begins to improve.

Wouldn’t it be nice to live your best life?

Breaking Bad Habits…A Prerequisite For Setting New Year’s Goals

As the new year approaches, many of us feel drawn to fresh starts and new possibilities. We reflect on where we’ve been and begin thinking about where we want to go next. And almost inevitably, we start setting goals or New Year’s resolutions.

But before you start mapping out what you want for the year ahead, it’s worth pausing to ask an important question:

Going into the new year, are you holding onto habits that are no longer serving you?

Why New Year’s Resolutions So Often Don’t Stick

Most people have experienced this cycle: motivation is high in January, progress feels promising at first, and then somewhere a few months in…momentum fades. Goals quietly fall by the wayside, leaving frustration and self-criticism in their place.

This isn’t because setting goals is a bad thing. Goals are powerful. The issue is that goals are often set without a realistic plan for how daily behavior needs to change in order to support them.

Part of that realism involves taking an honest look at your habits, especially the ones that directly oppose the goals you’re setting for the new year.

What the Research Tells Us About Habits and Goals

Research in behavioral psychology supports what many of us experience firsthand. In their paper A New Look at Habits and the Habit–Goal Interface, psychologists Wendy Wood and David Neal explain that goals alone have limited ability to break existing habits.

They found that when goals are in conflict with habits, change typically only happens when:

• The cues that trigger habits are altered, and/or
• People exert significant effortful self-control to inhibit old habits while actively implementing new, goal-consistent behaviors (Wood & Neal; Neal & Wood).

In other words, simply wanting change isn’t enough. If the same routines, environments, and triggers remain in place, old habits tend to win…no matter how meaningful the goal.

This is why relying solely on motivation or willpower can feel exhausting and discouraging.

Habits Are the Foundation Beneath Your Goals

Habits shape how we spend our time, respond to stress, manage our energy, and make decisions, often without conscious awareness. When those habits remain unchanged, they quietly undermine even the best intentions.

For example:

• If your goal is to reduce stress, but your habit is overcommitting or ignoring boundaries, stress will continue to build.
• If your goal is financial stability, but your habit is avoiding finances or emotional spending, progress will feel slow or impossible.
• If your goal is better well-being, but your habit is neglecting rest or self-care, burnout is likely to follow.

Trying to build new goals on top of old, misaligned habits is like trying to move forward with the parking brake on.

Breaking Bad Habits Creates Space for Sustainable Change

Before setting goals for the new year, it’s helpful to identify which habits are no longer aligned with the life you want to create. This isn’t about self-judgment or perfection…it’s about awareness.

Ask yourself:

• Which habits am I holding onto out of routine or comfort?
• Which habits drain my energy instead of supporting it?
• Which habits actively work against my goals?

Breaking, or even loosening, these habits creates space for new behaviors to take root. When you change the cues, the environment, or the daily routines that support old habits, change becomes far more sustainable.

A Different Way to Approach the New Year

Instead of jumping straight into resolutions, consider this approach:

1. Identify one habit that no longer serves you.
   Start small. Change doesn’t have to be dramatic to be effective.
2. Notice what triggers it.
   Stress, fatigue, emotional discomfort, or lack of boundaries often play a role.
3. Replace rather than remove.
   Habits are easier to change when you substitute them with something supportive.
4. Set goals that align with your new foundation.
   When habits support your goals, progress feels more natural and less forced.

True change isn’t about becoming someone entirely new overnight. It’s about letting go of what no longer fits and intentionally choosing habits that support who you’re becoming.

As you move into the new year, consider focusing less on lofty resolutions and more on the habits that shape your everyday life. When those shift, your goals stop feeling like pressure and start feeling possible.

If you’d like support identifying habits that may be holding you back and creating realistic, lasting change, coaching can help you build a foundation that truly supports your goals for the year ahead.

When the Holidays Don’t Feel So Merry

Give Yourself Permission to Feel What You Feel

The holidays are here once again…twinkling lights, festive music, decorated storefronts, and endless reminders that this is “the most wonderful time of the year.” And yet, maybe you’re struggling to feel even a flicker of that holiday spirit.

Does that sound familiar?

If it does, take a deep breath. Let your shoulders drop. You are not broken, and you are not alone.

The Hidden Side of the Holiday Season

For many, the holidays spark joy, gratitude, and a sense of connection. But for others, they bring something entirely different…sadness, resentment, heaviness, or even dread. These feelings often go unspoken because society expects us to smile, celebrate, and sparkle our way through the season.

Retail ads paint a very specific picture:
A big, happy family gathered around an overflowing table…
A Christmas tree surrounded by beautifully wrapped gifts…
A calendar packed with cheerful gatherings and joyful reunions…

And when our own reality doesn’t look like that, we can start to question ourselves.
Why can’t I feel happy like everyone else?
What’s wrong with me?

But here’s the truth: plenty of people don’t experience the holidays this way, whether they say it out loud or not.

Not everyone has a supportive family.
Not everyone has a partner.
Not everyone has the energy or finances for holiday festivities.
Not everyone feels joy this time of year.

And that’s not only OK, it’s human.

When the Holidays Stir Up Grief

For some, the holiday season magnifies loss…loss of a loved one, loss of a job, loss of health, loss of stability, or the end of a relationship or marriage. And grief doesn’t follow a schedule. It doesn’t politely wait until January to be felt.

Since losing my mother in January 2009, the season has held a bittersweet weight for me. There have been so many milestones in my life that I walked through without her, moments when I wanted her wisdom, her steady voice, or simply her presence.

Then in 2019, after 32 years of marriage, I went through a divorce. That first Thanksgiving and Christmas on my own were some of the most challenging days I’ve ever faced. The silence was louder. The empty space at the table was more noticeable. The traditions suddenly felt foreign, like they no longer belonged to me.

If you’ve felt that kind of heaviness, you know it’s not something you just “shake off.”

Giving Yourself Permission to Be Human

Over the years, I’ve learned several important lessons about navigating the holidays while grieving, healing, or simply not feeling your best. These are lessons I want to share with you because they may help lighten your load.

It’s OK to Feel Sad, Angry, Lonely, or Anything Else You Feel

Emotions are not wrong. They are not failures. They are not signs that you’re “not trying hard enough.”

They are signals letting you know what needs attention, compassion, or care.

But while it’s OK to feel whatever comes up, isolating yourself isn’t the answer.
Isolation doesn’t heal, it amplifies.
Isolation grows the loneliness and the anger until it becomes difficult to pull yourself out.

Being alone to recharge is healthy, isolating to avoid your feelings is not.

Let People In, Even When It Feels Hard

Reaching out to someone and saying, “I could really use your company,” can feel vulnerable. But vulnerability is a bridge, not a burden.

Letting someone know you need them strengthens relationships. It deepens bonds in ways that surface-level holiday small talk never could. And you might be surprised at how many people around you are relieved that someone finally said out loud what they have been feeling, too.

Know Your Limits, and Honor Them

There is no “right way” to get through the holidays.

Some days you may feel like attending a gathering or sharing a meal. Other days, you may crave stillness and solitude. It’s important to listen to yourself and trust the signals your body and spirit are giving you.

During my own healing, I found comfort in simple rituals:
Long, lavender-infused Epsom salt baths.
Journaling my thoughts, my grief, and my gratitude.
Choosing smaller, quieter moments over big, overwhelming events.

It’s not selfish to protect your energy. It’s necessary.

Sometimes You Need More Support…And That’s a Strength, Not a Weakness

There’s a cultural myth that we’re supposed to figure everything out on our own. But healing, true healing, often requires more than sheer willpower.

When I went through my divorce, my friends and family supported me, but it became clear that I needed something deeper. I needed professional support. I often say that my therapist saved my life and my life coach gave me purpose, but the truth is: I did the work. They simply provided the space, tools, and guidance I needed.

Seeking help is one of the bravest decisions you can make.
It says, “I deserve to feel whole again.”

You Deserve a Holiday Season That Honors Where You Are

This year, I invite you to rewrite what the holidays mean for you. They don’t have to look like a commercial. They don’t have to look like anyone else’s version of “merry.” They don’t even have to look like what they used to be.

Your holiday season can be:

• Quiet
• Simple
• Peaceful
• Reflective
• Healing
• Or filled with connection…on your terms

Whatever you choose, let it be yours.

A Final Reminder

If the holidays feel hard for you this year, please remember:

You are not alone.
You are not failing.
You are not behind.
You are human.

And you are allowed to feel exactly how you feel.

If you’re looking for guidance, companion support, or someone to help you navigate this season with more grounding and less overwhelm, I’m here. Helping women rediscover their strength, compassion, and purpose, especially during life’s most challenging seasons, is the heart of my work.

You don’t have to walk through this alone.
You deserve support. You deserve healing. And you deserve peace…especially now.

My Gift To You: Holiday Coping Strategies Worksheet

The attached worksheet provides you with some activities to support your healing and growth this holiday season. If you would like further support through coaching, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me.

To open and/or download the Holiday Coping Worksheet Click here: Holiday Coping Worksheet

 

 

Finding Clarity Through Organization

My family knows me as the “organizational guru.” I have a knack for taking chaos and turning it into something more manageable. If you walk into my kitchen, you’ll even find my junk drawer has a sense of order to it. Some might call that OCD, but for me…it’s sanity.

For me, organization isn’t about perfection; it’s about peace. It’s the quiet satisfaction of knowing where things are, of walking into a room and feeling calm instead of distracted. It’s about creating a space that supports me, not one that constantly demands my attention.

When my surroundings are in disarray, I can feel it internally. My thoughts get scattered, my focus fades, and even small tasks start to feel overwhelming. But when I take the time to organize…to put things in their place, clear off a counter, or file away loose papers, it’s like flipping a mental switch. My mind becomes lighter. My thinking becomes sharper. And suddenly, what felt chaotic starts to make sense again.

The Connection Between Outer Order and Inner Clarity

It’s easy to dismiss organization as a simple habit, but it’s actually deeply connected to our emotional and mental wellbeing. When we declutter our physical spaces, we also declutter our thoughts. We reduce the number of decisions our brains have to make and create a sense of control in an unpredictable world.

Research even supports this…studies have shown that clutter increases stress and reduces productivity. When our environment is messy, our brains perceive it as unfinished business, which drains our energy. In contrast, a well-organized space promotes focus, calm, and creativity.

Think about it…when your desk is piled high, your mind mirrors that clutter. But when you take a few minutes to bring order to your environment, your brain follows suit. You begin to see things more clearly – not just physically, but emotionally and mentally, too.

Small Steps to Big Change

You don’t have to overhaul your entire life to experience the benefits of organization. Start small.
Pick one drawer. One closet. One area of your workspace. As you sort and simplify, you’ll start to feel a subtle shift inside you.

Ask yourself:

• What am I holding onto that no longer serves me?
• What do I really need in this space, and in my life?
• What can I release to make room for something better?

Organization is not just about boxes, bins, and color-coded files. It’s about making intentional choices. It’s a process of aligning your environment with your values, so that everything around you supports the life you want to live.

Creating Space for What Matters Most

In providing organization to my physical world…my home, my office, my car, I’m really giving myself permission to breathe. I’m creating a clean mind-space for new ideas, goals, and growth.

When we make room in our surroundings, we make room for clarity. And clarity brings confidence…the kind that helps you take the next step, make the next decision, and move forward with purpose.

So the next time you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, don’t underestimate the power of a little order. Straighten a shelf, clear a counter, or organize that junk drawer. You might be surprised how much lighter you feel – and how much more clearly you can see the path ahead.

Because sometimes, finding clarity in life starts with simply putting things in their place.

Here’s a small challenge for you this week:

Set a timer for 10 minutes and choose one small area to organize…a drawer, a corner of your desk, or even your email inbox.

As you clear the space, notice how your energy shifts. Ask yourself what you feel lighter about, or what new idea comes to mind once the clutter is gone.

✨ Clarity doesn’t always come from thinking harder – sometimes, it comes from clearing space to think at all.